117: Stress Management

Generally, people suffer from stresses in different stages of life. And this is so because of ups and downs in their lifespan. Stress can be destructive and it can devastate our spirit for special situations. As it is known, stress cannot be removed from life, but it can be controlled in various situations. At the first step, the cases that can cause stress in our body and our mind should be recognized. When it comes to me, one of the important things that make me stressed is exam. For example, the internal exam of universities was one of the most stressful situations that I passed it.

I think stress is our body's way of responding to any kind of threat and I believe we can control our life and our stress with happiness and we haven't forget the secret of happiness is low expectation .

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Stress is often described as a feeling of being overloaded, tense or worried which comes from demands and pressures of recent past events or anticipated future. We all have experienced stress in our routine life. Actually sometimes it can help us to get our tasks done better and boost our performance. But uncontrolled stress can be very harmful for our mental and physiological health and it will reduce our abilities and motivations. Therefore it is crucial to deal with our stresses and make ourselves prepare for challenging situations may confront with. Accordingly we have to find out our stress risers and recognize the ways that we can overcome with them.
Due to my job as the sales and marketing manager in a pharmaceutical company I faced a lot of stresses in my workplace. Apparently meeting my deadlines make me nervous and stressful, moreover sticking to a tight schedule to achieve our goals surge this stresses. Lately I have decided to change my job because of some personal issues. As you may know changing job can be one of the most stressful event that a person goes through. fears and uncertainly due to this life changing event cause overwhelming pressure and tension and make me stress out. The important thing to keep in mind is that there is a continuum between positive and negative so not all changes are easily codified as good or bad but regardless of this fact changing career and working with new colleagues and new boss is really freak me out.
 

My question is:

Do you get stressed spontaneously? What is the main reason of that?

Stress is a powerful feeling which can destroy everything. If you study as well as you can and be ready for the test but you can't manage your stress it would make you ruined your test in spite of your great knowledge.

The tips of the video are really good and useful but I think every person can find a unique way to lessen the anxiety, for example when it comes to me I always go to the book city store which is near to our house. It really makes me feel calm because over there I can see people, read books, buy something lovely for me and maybe drink a cup of tea. Listening to a good music make me fell calm as well. It's related to my feelings to listen to a hard rock track or something else like ambient music.

My question is why these kinds of thing (for example smell a lavender or take a hot shower) make us feel better?

All of us normally have stressful situations every day. We need it somehow to meet our deadlines, to arrive on time and to get things done. The stress would be dangerous and useless when it comes again and again, and it makes us have no concentration even about doing routine things. We should be aware of this situation and try to cope with it. If we can do this and cope with the stress successfully, then it would change to a useful power which helps us to get improved.  

As you know,our reactions to stress triggers can be such as anxiety,depression,phobia and etc; in this case,an increase for heart attacks or various diseases such as cancer would be more terrifying but it is true and all of this problems are because of too much stress.

In this way having a right stress management can help you to cope with it and avoid the anxiety feeling.Actually it doesn't mean that you have to be away from all those stressful situations in your life,you should know how to improve yourself and your body in order to stay calm,concentrated and balanced when you are stressed out.

Staying in recuperate allows your brain to pair down and focus ,so you can try repetitive tasks in this case.Also some simple tips can be useful to relieve stress,like taking a hot shower to boost your mood or progressive muscle relaxation which helps you to sleep better by clenching up every muscle in your body and then letting them go.meditation ,yoga and exercises make you calm; even eating chocolate is effective too, because certain chemicals in chocolate help relax the blood vessels.

For me,the most stressful events are related to my school and education which make me nervous about my scores,but recently I'm more paying attention to lessons which are related to my future and i like the most ,in this way my stress for others has decreased and I think that it is a positive change.

Stress is a reaction to some situations that we haven't self esteem, I think. So by improving confidence we can move stress from our life .